There are times when I feel confidence is being faked. This “care-a-damn” attitude many people sport is rather a facade. When a person says he doesn’t give a damn what others think of him, he actually DOES give a damn. In other words, they are indifferent to the happenings around them. In the first place, what’s indifference? Indifference is the saturation point of anger. Why would one be indifferent to what others say? Expectations result in anger and excessive anger, in turn to indifference. So,per se, indifference might be termed as “cold anger”.
Maslow’s hierarchy of needs appraises just that. Every person has needs and none is an exception to that. When the needs get neglected, he automatically turns a cold shoulder to whatever that’s happening. Let’s suppose A loves something dearly, and when A’s expectations fail over a period of time, A becomes indifferent and starts wearing a facade.
What makes people say things like “I don’t care what others think about me! ” and “I am what I am”? Elementary, my dear Watson. The need to act perverted sets in. Such people want to prove to the world that they don’t care about anything at all while in fact, they do. Sadly, such indulgence is fondly being called “Attitude”. Is this not hypocritical?
I have met many who act perverted just to attract attention. Ha! Pretense is sickening indeed! What is the need to act perverted, basically? By proclaiming yourself as someone that is not you, you are only making yourself seem stupid to me. I have come across many such paradigms who want to be hated or despised. Indifference gives way to another equally perturbing tool, Hostility. Hypocritical indifference is being rendered as a bow and hostility, as an arrow.
Pretense is the greatest folly of Mankind -Ranjani Ravi aka rampantheart
Why would people want to be hated? The repercussions of their reactions are very well known to them. People that want to be hated show a strong craving for social acceptance. According to my hypothesis, they want to be either hated or loved. Still don’t get get me? When people know for certain that they don’t get what they want, they use the hate factor as a facade. They want to be either loved or hated:Not Neglected I am reiterating the point. They would rather be loved or hated than being ignored or neglected. Their behavior says they need something to prove others that they exist. That their existence is part of the finite world. That they are part of the infinite cosmos. This is the fundamental aspect of human psychology, in my opinion.
Why do you think the teen population has gone astray? Pretense rules their lives. The time you start thinking you know everything (Why, some even think they know the nexus between Brahman and Atma), ignorance takes the upper hand and makes you fall into the abysmal pit called delusion or Maya.
The next time you come across a person that has a care a damn attitude, don’t ignore him. Acknowledge his presence. Acknowledgment of the fact that he exists, is what he needs.
Go ahead, inundate me with your never-ending questions!
Nice one. Pretense has its presence not just in teens. It can be found in grown ups and it need not be restricted to “I don’t care attitude”, it could even be “I care for all”
Well I am indifferent towards some people. I think I simply dont care about them. I think indifeerence also sets in when you dont care about the other person.
What I am considering about the reason of teen population go astray is the explosion of information and super fast speed of society progress, they live in this complicated matrix and have poor knowledge to judge between the truth and lies. some of them got totally confused. as what I’d seen in China, we have simple or complicated politics and different view from the international world. people have to face to variety of information. it’s hard to tell it’s right or wrong, that may annoy the young people. so they may take indifference attitude to escape from those annoyance. and that result would affect them to deal with all difficulty the met in the same way.
Not always is indifference a by product of hatred or negligence or wanna be attention.
some times indifference is a deliberate stance taken to protect oneself from getting flustered or
even hurt
Personally I am all for indifference rather than feeling bad! Sometimes somethings are just not worth it. Being indifferent is the best answer in those cases/
though i agree with you on Pretense.
@Vishwas Krishna –
I agree with your point. But this was mainly written for people in the former category.
Thanks, anyway for having your say!
@The Pseudonym –
Thanks for stopping by to comment.
@Kelvin Zhao –
I guess the same can be said with respect to India. But what intrigues me the most about China is the way things are kept discreet about everything!
Thanks for stopping by to comment!
@nivi –
What causes indifference, basically? Why do you feel a need to protect yourself from the world? Obviously expectations act as the source. Then comes Anger which in turn paves the way to indifference.
Know what? I am an indifferent creature! This post is directed at people who wear a facade; those who feign confidence but is full of self-pity inside.
Of course there are people who doesn’t want to look defeated and they hide indifference by saying they don’t care but there are a good no of ppl who really don’t
@Elvia –
Elvia, Thanks for stopping by to comment!
Ha ha ha… Well, the said indifference can be so frustrating to others.
And u r spot-on regarding the teen population…
Coming to think of it… Most, if not all, of us wear this mask. A friend of mine is an artist and in one of his paintings, he had drawn just that. The different masks ppl prefer to hide behind. Well, we can’t do much abt those kinda ppl. That’s prolly their insecurity and/or their way to *tackle* the world.
Will try to share a snap of that painting… Better understood when u see it.
And yippie! No database error here.
Peace.
@Kartz –
I really look forward to having a look at it! Please upload it soon!
Yeah. Thankfully, the database problems got solved soon!
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Interesting subject!
I googled the word indifferent due to being the victim of someones indifference recently. I am coping with it by being nice to the person although it is difficult. Although I undertand the writers views,my understanding of people who act indifferent towards others,especially if their victims are genuinely ‘nice people’ is that they are nothing less than BULLIES!!!!!! Having tried the be nice to them approach and finding it doesnt work,in my view ,the way to treat the indifferent ‘BULLY
is to challenge them and quite simply start giving as good as you get.
THis will be MY!! coping mechanism from now on!
@Lara,
Thanks for stopping by to comment! You seem to have had some experiences with indifferent people! Anyway, challenging people wouldnt be the best solution, IMHO! Dont ask me what is, though! It’s a very difficult question. People are complex creatures and cant be stereotyped.